H talking D again.. after 3 mos. of piecing

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H and I had a R talk tonight intiated by me. It seemed to go pk. I told him that I was concerned he was making a hasty decision and that with the stress of the business and such that he needs to give it time. I also told him that he can't expect to have feelings of intense passion for someone forever. We have been together 6 years so the honeymoon period is over. When he came home after being gone 6 weeks this summer we both had those butterfly feelings again, but eventually they went away. I figured that would happen and even the counselor told both of us we were in the honeymoon phase again and to enjoy it while it lasted.

Anyways H responded by saying he agreed with what I was saying and thats why he said a couple days ago he wanted to wait and get through the holidays. I agreed to spend the holidays with him as long as that meant he still had some hope for our marriage and was going to put his ring back on.

We opened Christmas gifts from each other that we each bought for each other weeks ago when things were fine. He thanked me several times for his gifts. We have been watching tv together most of the day and are both sitting on couch right now, but at opposite ends and I am on computer too.

He has been nice and friendly. Friday night we ate dinner together and rented a movie. He sat next to me on the couch part of the time, but didn't initiate any touch. Yesterday he helped me with the dishes. I will say when he moved out this summer he was mean, angry and did not want to be in the same room or house with me. Things are obviously not that bad again.

I am planning to try and just give him space and be upbeat and in good spirits. It is hard sometimes not to get angry when he withholds affection. My LL is physical touch so it kills me to get nothing from him.

I just hope I can be patient. I know the principles of DB have worked before so I need to stick with them. I just hope I have the strength to keep it up again. It wasn't easy.