H talking D again.. after 3 mos. of piecing

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I am not sure how much longer I can put myself through this pain. One week my H is saying he loves me and that I am the "one" for him and then a few weeks later he is wanting a D. It seems like he doesn't know what he wants.

I am so confused about what to do. I have not told my family about this yet because they are going to be so mad he is doing this to me again. They are going to want me to be DONE with him.

I feel like he is making a big mistake. His reasoning is that he just doesn't feel passion towards me anymore. I think he believes that the "honeymoon" feelings are suppose to last forever. I am afraid if we do divorce that within a couple mos he is going to realize he made a mistake and try and come back to me again. We don't have any kids so will have no reason to talk. Not to mention, I will move back to my hometown which is 3 hours away. After we got married, I moved for his job and will have no reason to stay here if we aren't together.

I don't know if I have the energy to go through all this again. This summer felt like a living nightmare. I had trouble sleeping, eating, working or doing anything. My stomach is in knots again. I am tired of letting someone treat me so poorly. I don't think I have the patience to let him figure things out again.

I mean how can I ever trust what he says. His words seem to mean nothing. How can you say you love someone and want to be together and then a month later say you feel nothing. I feel like even if he comes back around to me that I will be constantly worried and insecure about our marriage. Because at any moment he might have another change of heart about me.

Prior to leaving the first time, he had a lot of complaints about our marriage which were understandable. I recognized my part in our failed marriage and made changes. Since coming home I have continued the changes. It seems like at times I was the only one really trying and making an effort.

It would be great to get some advice from others out there. I am really struggling with my emotions right now and trying to figure out what to do.

Do I spend the holidays with him or go see my family on my own?
If he doesn't move down in the basement on his own tonight do I continuing sleeping in the same bed with him?

I noticed he has taken off his wedding ring today too.