H talking D again.. after 3 mos. of piecing

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Sad to say that things are not going well for me and my H. Its been 3 mos. since he came back home and just this week he started talking D again. He says he just doesn't feel "passion" for me anymore.

I don't understand it. He made the decision to come home and said he missed me and loved me. He had stopped talking to OW that he had EA with a few weeks prior to returning home. He realized he was not interested in her and missed me. For several weeks after coming home he was so affectionate. Bought me an expensive necklace for our 4 yr. anniversary along with a romantic card and 4 roses for 4 yrs. of marriage. He told me how happy he was to be home and that we were working through things.

We have been going to MC and have another appt. this week. He is not talking about moving out again and we are still in the same bed. However, last night he told me he was pretty certain he wanted a divorce and just wanted to get through the holidays. He had a business dinner at 7pm that I was suppose to go on, but I didn't end up going. He didn't really act like he cared whether I went or not and after hearing him talk D again I really didn't feel like being around him either and having to act like everything was fine at a business event. He didn't end up coming home until 8am this morning. I did not call, text and have not said anything to him this morning about him being gone all night. I believe he stayed with a male friend who was going to the business dinner with him too. I know he was drinking and up late because he's down stairs asleep on the couch still which isn't like him.

We had plans with both sides of our family next week and I am torn about what to do. It seems he wants to spend the holidays together so he doesn't have to deal with explaining anything to his family yet. I am not sure I want to spend the holidays with someone if they are thinking they want to divorce me after the first of the year.

I don't know how to handle this situation. Last time he said he wanted a divorce he moved out. This time he said he is not moving out. Do I move to the basement or stay in our marital bed?

Do I spend the holidays with him and just give it time and see what happens?

It has just been in the last few weeks that I have noticed a change in him. One thing I will also mention is that we own a business which is struggling right now. A few weeks ago our account got very low and he has been stressing about how to pay the bills, etc. I am not sure if this is playing a role in his feelings and attitude to me or what.

I would appreciate any advice!! How should I act in the house with him? Do I resort back to LRT? and if so, how do you do this when your living in the same house together?
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M-34, H-37, No Kids
Married 4yr, Together 6yr
Discovered EA 7/24/10
Separated 8/6/10
Filed 8/16/10
H Moved home and Piecing 9/20/10