I wish I could tell you an answer that would satisfy and keep your heart from hurting so badly. I did not get into the shape I was in over night. It took a long time. People get side blinded with life, and relationships begin to suffer. Usually, one person of the couple doesn't realize to what extent until the other one is through.

At one point, I even questioned if I ever had truly fallen in love with my H! That is how messed up the WAS can get. That is why the the rewriting of history can come about.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!