I will probably have some to disagree b/c anyone (such as your W) come from church-going background and still do a lot of wrong. But I think if a person goes and picks up a woman at a bar, for example, maybe he shouldn't be shocked if her standards aren't what he is wanting in a woman.

I knew a girl who met her future H in a bar, went home with him the first night. Then when she decided to get back in church, she was very disappointed that he had no interest and wanted to go out and be with the party crowd.

That's all I meant.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!