I agree, dealing with H's mail and phone calls DOES get to be annoying over time. I began to feel like telling him that I wasn't his personal secretary. But I didn't. Just bit my tongue, trying not to scare away the scared rabbit.
I used the mail and phone messages as a way to keep the thread between us. During the first 4 months, when H had a very hard time coming to the house (I think he was grieving the loss), he asked me to leave his mail in the garage (I never changed the lock code because he still has stuff in there) which I did. When things started becoming friendlier between us I would keep all of his mail in one spot in the house and every 2-3 weeks H would come to the house to get it when I was there. It was an opportunity to have the house smell and look good and to show H the new me.............kinda like what glamgirl posted on my thread yesterday.
