My holiday travel plans are up in the air. It looks like I took the wrong day off. We had agreed (my W reluctantly so, as she tells me now) to cook on the day I return from my holiday. She now tells me she is unhappy with the arrangement, as it leaves her alone for too long, and prevents her from visiting her sibling.
I agree with my W that she we shouldn't skip a cooking week. We don't want to live a life of austerity. We both want to have disposable income to enjoy meals out, dance lessons, movies. My W wants vacations and a new car.
My W seems on the verge of leaving her part-time job. The quality of her job is poor. She's working for a restaurant that is in financial distress, and the owner continues to make decisions that keep the chaos going. My fear is that if my W quits, she will continue to procrastinate with job-hunting. We will also have to accept the financial consequences of her decision. I don't argue with her about quitting the job. I ask her what she will do with her time, if she quits.
Last year my W was working, so felt comfortable missing a cooking week. I think if I insisted on going, it would cause harm to the R, and it might derail the connection.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
