WAW The cold & cruel truth 2

[MrBond]

You'll never find the "answer" to that question. It's how all WASs treat their LBS. Look at all the stories. We've all been where you are and searched for answers. The only person who can answer that is your W.

And let's be honest here. You weren't showing her "true" love before. In fact, you were pretty selfish in wanting your 4th child when you said she clearly didn't want to. Didn't you also cheat on her with your first W? I believe your rationale was that you wanted to see if there were any feelings left. Regardless of your rationale, you cheated plain and simple. It's just one of the many things that built up resentment in her and so when she found an OM, she left.

There's your 2x4.

True love is listening and understanding your partner when they need it the most. You as well as the rest of us, didn't do that. She found someone else who did.

You can't force her to think the way you do or act the way you want her to. So you keep saying you don't see it changing, she's not going to change, etc. So why are you still angry? I mean, you filed, so start living your own life so that you can start being happy.

You haven't detached, just built up more anger. The OM is just a part of the problem. If you've shown her anger, resentment, embarassment, etc. when you see her. Why would she want to come back? Right now as you are, can you give a reason why she would even consider rethinking M?