But I'm not waiting years for the slight hope that she will someday feel love toward me. I feel really stuck now.
This is a crucial part for the LBH. He wants his old W back 100% into the M. She can't at this point. His frustration rises and he starts thinking D would be better than this. It's not.
When you have a good evening out with your W, count that as another baby-step toward the goal. Don't push for more. If she's ready to move back into the bedroom with you, she'll let you know. Accept the good times and stop ruining it by bringing up something you don't like in the R. This will hold her off and there will be more distance between you.
I know with me, I was leery about even smiling at my H b/c he thought that was a signal for him to grab me and throw me down and make love right there. My thinking was, "No way buddy,not yet". So, it prevented me from showing him a happier side for a while,b/c I didn't want him to read that as everything was fine, I was fixed, and I was ready for sex. Every woman may not be that way,but that was me.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
