In the process

[newmama]

so I have to post something else-- just got off the phone with a friend of mine who is a betrayed spouse. His wife still hasn't filed for divorce (been a year+ since they have been separated and she started the process but stopped). Well, today some "older woman" called her OM's mom and went off trash talkin her and what she is doing. Apparently, the woman also called a couple of weeks ago when his W was on vacation (with her stepmom, NOT OM) but the OM's mom just let them know today. His W said she was filing for D on Monday.

He initially replied by explaining that he doesn't care about her, he is fed up, he is living his life (fyi--he also has been dating someone that he doesn't care much for over the last 4 months) and his family doesn't care about her--that no one he knows or his mom would do such a thing at this point. She seemed to believe him. She initially suspected her mom did it!

Then he explained that he added later in the conversation that he does care what happens to her and doesn't want her to be hurt.
He asked her how being officially divorced would improve her life at this point (apparently she has been having extreme financial issues, the kids are lashing out at OM and her and life has been hard). She said she thought it would change things.

By the end of the conversation(s), she stopped talking about filing for D and was more focused on finding out who did this. She ended up figuring out someone found OM's mom on FB and she ended up deleting 200 "friends!"

So I share this because I kind of think it was a form of exposure. It seems like it is likely that it was her MOM (considering some details that were shared about her that no one else besides my friend knows)!

And surely, OM's mom is now doubting things and feeling duped because she was fed one story and now it could all be lies...

WOW!

ok just sharing... considering how broke she is, I doubt she will be filing on Monday and I reminded my friend how many times exH said he was going to do it before he did. And I reminded him that it wasn't too horrible when it happened, because, like him, I had already suffered and at the same time was building a life acting as if I was divorced (pretty much).