I'm in the dog house today. Last night a hose broke in my car around 25 miles from home, on the way home from work. My W and I had committed to perform with our studio early in the evening. I didn't know what to do to keep the commitment. I didn't want to harm the car by driving it home. I tried to reach my W, who wasn't answering her phone. I called AAA and hoped for the best. The only other option was to leave the car stranded, and take a taxi home, and tend to the car later. The instructor told my W he would dance with her. I told my W to go on without me. She chose to stay home to tend to me. Today I'm being punished for that decision. I am disappointed that we missed being with our dance students. I don't think she realizes how disappointed I am, and how frustrated I was when the car had problems.
My W is threatening to quit her part-time job. I recommend job-hunting while she has the job. She's paid for 20 hours, but puts in more time than that. She wants to go to a job-hunting group one day per week, but has been missing that. I told her my concerns about her being at home with nothing to do, and not moving forward like she did this summer. She says that it's time to take care of herself. She says that she doesn't know how to job-hunt. I told her that possibly that that's her next step--to see how people she knows job-hunt these days and what resources they use. I would say her job-hunting procrastination is catching-up with her.
She's changed her mind about the refinancing. I'm fine with that. We can make extra payments at some point to shorten the life of the loan.
She threatened again to quit the dance competition, saying we can't afford it. I told her that it was far cheaper than her vacations, and one of few things I ask for. She didn't say a word at the lesson today. I paid for it myself. The lesson went well, and I must say we're starting to look pretty good. We were working more on arm styling today. I've also figured-out how to get her to practice. I bring dance shoes to our exercise classes, and remind her to practice for 1/2 hour after class. This works far better than getting her to practice at home.
My W and I are having a conflict about how to spend the holidays. My siblings are going to norhern Ohio to meet my parents. If I were to go, my W would be in town alone for part of the time. She has a sibling coming into town for part of the time. There's also the question about what to do with the cooking job, which pays great money. I told my mother that I was still making plans, and she told me she understood if I couldn't make it. I'll let this situation percolate, and see I my W and I can a compromise. I think she's right to complain that I made travel plans without consulting with her.
She sounds like she has bronchitis or a respiratory problem. I would say her smoking cessation procrastination is catching-up with her. I'll again ask her what her next step is, to help get out her mental paralysis.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
