Detaching was the hardest for me. But it wasn't until I really did it that things turned around for me. My H went through a few years of MLC and around 4 different A's. My advice is not to ask him to attend the meetings with you and the kids. Don't even tell him you are going just tell him that you are attending a meeting or function with the kids.
Dont worry about what his complaints about you are, what is more important right now would be what are your complaints about yourself? Start working on that list it's the better one.
Don't stress too much about him being at church- you want him there. He needs to see you still living your life and looking great while doing so. Dont be fake, be genuine. Yes, you will feel some butterflies but maybe look at it like this, play a game with yourself- pretend that you are a single lady and he is a great guy at church you have a crush on, so dont lay it on to thick but dont be too snooty either if that makes sense. Smile and be nice but enjoy your time at church. Trust me once they see that you are going to be able to go on be able to do it without falling apart they start seeing a strong woman. An attractive woman.
You have the confidence inside- just show it on the outside
Great post, Lisa.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
