I would have to get a job and start bein responsible for myself and taking care to not spend frivalously. I would have to start contributing fairly to the financial aspect of my childrens upbringing, and start taking every oppurtunity i can to spend time with my kids. Then i would have to work on getting a grip of my issues by eliminating their root causes, by holding down a job; getting in decent shape; getting over what she has done to me; and regaining some semblance of self confidence.
Sounds do-able to me.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
