Yes,it makes perfect sense. Sounds like he could never let go. I believe you will have to have to drop the rope on him and go on about your life as if he is no longer the center of it. It will take time for him to finally see that his XW is not the best option in his life. It will take a lot of spunk for you to let go with him under the same roof. Can you do that? Can you react to him as though he's a cousin staying there b/c he can't go anywhere else? Can you make a life for yourself?

It is not the competion with OW.....it is all about attitude. He's not attracted, or can't see you b/c he's blinded by his XW. The more you pursue him trying to win over the OW....the more he will turn away. Dropping the rope is the advice I give in this particular stitch.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!