You are right. I have to remember this is another one of those things where my instincts are the opposite of what I should do.
I really don't want to agree with her though. I don't want it to appear that I am ready to move on with D also. I need to think about how I am going to show her I understand how she feels, but at the same time, she needs to know where I stand. I want to be prepared for this moment so it doesn't escalate into something worse than it already is.
I believe this will be the next step she takes. It may be the only R talk I get. So I want to take something as negative as this, and try to make it as positive as possible.
H-40 W-38 Together-20 Married-12 boy-7 girl-3 bomb-9/17/10 No papers live together No affair