Originally Posted By: tpc1977
I'm sick on my stomach even typing this. I hurt in places I haven't hurt my whole life.


You are going to feel this way for a bit.

The big question is what are you going to do with it.

Originally Posted By: tpc1977
Darker, unwelcoming eyes


Normal reaction.

You are here. What do you want because you do control part of this.

I see you are starting to look at your part in it.

No excuse for her choice to go outside the M.

Crisis makes people do things they wouldn't normally do.

But it can also define us in a way we never thought about.

Now is the time for you to dig deep within yourself and ask yourself some tough questions.

When you took your vows. You said:

"I will love and honor you all the days of my life. For better or worse."

This may certainly be the worse. Most people (50% divorce rate) don't have the stomach for worse.

Did you say that day:

" I will be with you for better or worse

BUT

If you get scared and lose your way.

If you get so scared you run away.

I won't."

?

We can react to what our spouse does or doesn't do.

That is easy.

Watch any school yard fight.

What are you prepared to do for your M if you are not guaranteed it can be saved?

What is it that tpc believes in. What are his values and beliefs.

Time to get to figuring what kind of man you want to be. What kind of husband you want to be.

This is all up to you.

Originally Posted By: TPC
But I need to be here for us. Or at least I think I do. Maybe that's a problem in itself.


Only if you are not up to it.

Don't let anyone decide something for you.

You have YOUR answer inside you.

That is your first step. Then ...

there are folks here to help you get there.

because we have all been there.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am