Originally Posted By: Pickle
That makes sense, but also looks a bit like being a "doormat".


Pickle you will see I say this alot.

You are doormat IF you think you ARE are doormat.

You are not a doormat for standing up for what you believe and want.

Your W is going to do what she is going to do.

Does that define you? Is she really wiping her boots on you?

You decide.

Does that make you a doormat?

Only if you let her actions and choices make it so.

Who controls that?

Protect yourself.

Our State unfortunately is not the best for advocating waiting in a marriage.

I am not a lawyer but your sitch is what it is.

Time is not your friend if it is a new marriage but the long term ones ...

It is not going to change in a year.

The detioration?

How much of that are you in control of?

Deal with that part of it Pickle.

You didn't get here overnight so it ain't gonna get solved overnight.

Don't read into the quickness of your M detioration.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am