I'll see where that gets me. I said the same thing to her today, NO eye contact or comment from her at all!! I think she may be under the impression that I no longer have any intrest in her, idk. I have thought about reaching out to her in a week or two (if things have not made some progress) by saying something like, "I know this is hard, but I want you to know, I'm here if you need me." Something to let her know I do still care.
Today a bit better. She dropped off 3 of the kids from school... Took S5 & D3 out for some reason, which she explained... She made eye contact for a change... Mentioned a couple issues concerning kids... That's all and she walked away. My sister was sceptical and said, "She's up to something". I laughed about that, but sort of agree. Not putting much thought into why, just counting it as a microscopic baby step. If history repeats itself, she'll be cold again by morning. So I will continue with the greeting for now.
"I have thought about reaching out to her in a week or two (if things have not made some progress) by saying something like, "I know this is hard, but I want you to know, I'm here if you need me." Something to let her know I do still care."
Nope this is pursuing. Seeing the way she is now, she's going to laugh it off. Don't say something like that until you are on a much stronger footing.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
So one of my family members informed me that W deleted most of my family n friends from her FB. Some are taken aback because they didn't do anything wrong to her or even comment on our issue. It's like her plan is to ERASE me completely and any link to me. Some of our mutual friends don't speak to me now... No reason for that stuff... I wonder what she told them. I wonder if she told everyone her only task now as a parent of 4 kids is to pick then up (already ready), drive ten minutes and drop them off! Christ she doesn't have to feed them, no laundry, basically NOTHING. it really pisses me off to be the good guy and be wronged so greatly, and to have other actually buy into her crap. WRONG! ABSOLUTELY WRONG!
She posts all the time how she's going out drinking, etc. Does anyone see the bull!? While I'm struggling and stressed doing it all! Idk just venting I guess... Just wish there was some justice.
JMO, but I have read some stories where the FB activity seems really high schoolish. She is trying hard to convince somebody that she's really living it up, that she's happy, etc. Maybe she's trying to convince herself.
A person who has self-convidene doesn't have to "prove" anything on FB, to friends, family, anyone. So, mark it down that she's not very confident.
Maybe that doesn't help your feelings at the moment, but try not to take the bait. Sure it hurts when friends stop speaking, but someday the truth will come out, and your "real" friends will be standing.....right there beside you.
I hate to see any woman talk trashy and talk about drinking, ect. It makes her look like anything but a lady. She is hurting herself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Thanks Sandi! I was wondering where you went. I agree with the FB comment... I use mine to post photos of the kids for the family to see. Thanks for stopping back.
I do have to say this... It seems to me like each time she alienates others, it just makes it harder and harder to salvage the marriage. That is my big concern. After all the wrong she's done not just to me, but my family and friends, I just don't see her wanting to cone back.
