It wasn't that others hadn't answered me about this question in general. But specifically, OW is his ex-wife. She is begging for him back after leaving him 21 years ago for another man - unrequited love. All through our marriage, I knew he was not over her ( based on several google searches for her that I found earlier on and some things that he said). So ya - she is making him feel good. Telling him he wasn't the reason she left (whatever excuse she is using, I'm sure it's quite padded). She is feeding his ego. What was old is new again. How in the world can I compete with that?? Especially when he is convinced she has nothing to do with the current situation (rewriting our history, skewing timelines, spinning the story so he won't look like an a** for leaving me and the kids and going back to her).
Maybe I'm missing something - maybe the same laws of attraction apply here. But I really can't make myself more attractive to him in the way she is because it's all about their history together and his relief in hearing her say she wants him back and that it was all her fault.
Does this make any sense??
M9+ T 11+ Me42 H44 2 kids under 5 IlYBNILWY -3/10 A discovered late 8/10 H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later "Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10
