MLC or just an EA?

[InAPickle]

"am I being negative by doing this?"

I think you're preparing yourself for seperation.
It's part of letting go. My sitch is similar to yours, except my WAS is wanting D. In the end absence might be the next step for us. I fully expect A w/OM who is married will fizzle, unless W wants to fly to Dayton alot, 'cause he's cheap a pig (didn't even pay for her trip) cheating on his own W.

If your H wants out and you have stated your terms, it might be best to "open the cage" and kick him in the ass. Once he sees what he's "lost" it might jog him out of the MLC, you never know. At least his OW is uninterested.

My W unfortunately is still in fantasy land and OM is leading her on like a knight in shining armor. It will probably turn sour but I expect too late for me, the damage has been done. Today I was thinking she's "dead to me" and I really would not be fazed if her plane crashed. Now that's letting go !!