Am I piecing? Just can't tell...

[Sad_but_happy]

Harrier,
I'm navigating unchartered waters and here on this board because I DON'T know everything. I am confident and secure at home and I think that's how it looks to her as well.

I'm trying not to over think things but when I'm not with her I tend to panic (just a bit)... Thanks again for grounding me.

As far as not being able to read her. it's true, we have been together for 21 years but she it a different person, going through a MLC and acting different... So I can't know what she is THINKING...

We have been in MC on and off since year 8 of our M (married 16 years). We have another session this Sunday. But she is getting tired of it. She feels that if we can't make it work then it is useless. I disagree with her. But I do agree that we need something to change and I feel we are on the right track.

When I say we don't fingt that does not mean I never disgree with her. If I don't agree with something I validate, discuss and we come to a solution...

Case in point:
W told S12 that he was no longer allowed to bring his favotit comic book to school, EVER. I approached wife and...

1. Validated that bringing the comic EVERY DAY was not appropriate and he should not be allowed to.

2. Discussed the possibility of allowing S12 to pick one day a week to bring the comic.

3. W agreed and approached son asking what day he would like.

4. S12 hugged W and told her he loves her.


In the past I would have told her that she was being to strict and to lighten up and give him a break.

Communication is the key! Not arguing and yelling...

Thanks for checking in...