wife preparing to leave me and kids

[MrBond]

"Thing is I have been treating her as my friend. And I think it has only caused false niceness from her. "

Mindreading. It could be that your lack of pressure has softened her. Either way, there's no point in "analyzing" why she treats you the way she does.

"I was hoping she would have turned towards me rather than futher away."

Not going to happen that quickly.

Like sandi says, just start off small. And rebuild. Stay on course while the fog of the A starts going away.

"I didn't want to wonder so I went to the courthouse, the clerks are helpful looked it up and all. She filed the way its filed after I am served the earliest a hearing can take place is 6 months in accordance with the law."

Now you know, so get going.