We used to fight every day and I don't believe we have fought in over 2 months. Almost every interaction is positive. Not because SHE has changed but because validating and remaining calm works wonders. I have learned that anger and yelling is useless and NEVER gets you what you want.
Wow! I would say that deserves a gold star!
I disagree. I think it makes you look weak. I'm not saying starting a fight just to start a fight, but you are going to have conflict in your marriage in even the best of time.
Actually, it's not Anger and yelling that are useless. Studies show that many happily married couples yell at each other and get mad at each other. In fact, is the marriages were no yelling occurs that you have to really worry about. The real issue is HOW you get mad and HOW you deal with it. Avoiding it isn't healthy.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
