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how in the world do I know what he will and won't do/feel??


You don't.

You can waste alot of time worrying about it though.

Time better spent on yourself.

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What I have discovered is that try as I might, I am not someone who can hold my s**t together while my H is having an affair.


If he wasn't having an affair everything would be better, and you could hold your stuff together...

Barb, that may or may not be true.

Try to keep the little things together, start small and build up from small successes.

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What can I do to pique his interest/curiosity once he is gone?

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I know GAL for ME is key in all of this


Affirmation of your own answer?

Yes, GAL for you. But asking what would pique his interest in you...ins't really GALing for YOU.


Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet