Mila I do think it's weird about leaving ow alone, but then again your h doesn't know what he really wants. Hence MLC = confusion.
Now my h would do the same thing for Thanksgiving. He would spend the day with us and then go live with ow. Now my h was lying all the way through his crisis. Not sure how he could do this, but in his own mind I guess he justified it. It tells me though these ow really don't mean anything to them.
Realistically, if these ow really meant the world to them they would pass on spending time with their family. Just my opinion though.
Your h sounds extremely depressed just like my h was throughout the entire crisis. Tears alone tells you how difficult this whole situation is for him let alone you too.
Good for you to take the high road!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
I don't even know what to say. Your H is definitely living in a fantasy world, if he thinks OW is going to just sit there and not want to be included in his holiday plans.
Whatever happens, I hope it will move in a positive way for you. Take care, Mila.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Glad you all agree that my H is out to lunch...btw I like caramel popcorn as well....
One thing I don't think that I ever mentioned....OW is of culture that doesn't celebrate Xmas...yuppp...and H really loves Xmas. So maybe it's not a big deal for her, she is not giving up any traditions...and maybe she will not sit in the apartment, she has friends and family in this town....most of them don't want to see her after what she has done to her family (cultural) but maybe she still has someone that she can visit while H is celebrating Xmas.
But if she is any mother at all she will miss her children over the winter break. Her H invited her to go skiing with him and the kids...and she said, how can I? I'm in a relationship.....
More calls and emails from H this morning....looking for a skirt under his tree, do I have anything he can use...so gave him something, another call wanted to talk about some details about the visit to his dad...then he just shows up at my door looking for something that he already took...I had to open the door with my hair wet and no make-up...grrrr
Enough already, leave me alone....Just about time for me to leave town....LOL Leaving in couple of hours for a ski weekend with D and couple of her friends. Our condo will be full...party time...apparently I can go clubbing with them lol....I just may do that
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
All that corn give me an idea. Don't you think you should give you H one of those cheap buckets of corn( variety pack, thank you) for Xmas? Just an inside joke. He'll never figure it out. LOL
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Mila, I have been following your thread with interest. And now I will follow even more keenly. My H has done the same thing as yours. He is spending Xmas eve, xmas day and xmas night here and then the girls and him are heading to his house to celebrate boxing day with ow. Hate those custody laws but hey. this was so different to BD when he informed me the he and ow were going to have her kids and our kids for Xmas so they could all be together. You sound so calm I wish I were as detached, but then again working nights can make a soul very tired.
Oh and I found out today that he is also going to be here New Years Eve and New Years day.
Add to the fact he stays here 3 nights now to look after the girls while I work (starting tomorrow night that is) I wonder soemtimes if he is trying to sneak home.
Most likely not he's just confused. But ow H cheated on her (so she said) so surely she must be at least nervous about him choosing to be here with his family. Do some MLCers do this drive the ow mad until they walk?
ugh.
Mila good luck hope your roller coaster is slowing.
