Fix me, fix my life, win back my wife

[Sad_but_happy]

Hi SIC,
I am so sorry for how you feel right now. Know that it WILL pass. Life will go on and you will be happy again. Those are empty words to you right now but they are the truth!

I understand the mind of a WAS. I wanted to be one for so long. I was looking forward to the day when I would be free..

They feel that life will be great, that everyone can be friends, that the kids will adjust, and that the grass is so lush and green on the other side that they just can't wait to get there!

The sad part is that that lush green grass browns quickly when you realize what is at stake. In the book the W and I are reading, "Surrendering to Marriage", one on the references that hit home was this;

"I would not trade even one day without my child for the company of a new Man/woman let alone losing half of all days".

If the WAS really sat and though about what they were sacraficing many would rethink their position.

But they DON'T think... They react... They want to feel good in the moment. We live in a "me" society and not a "we" society.

But you can't change HER. You have an option every day!

Be happy or be miserable.

List reasons why you are happy:
Health
Children
Mom/dad
Siblings
Job
And the fact that you WILL love again

Hang in there SIC. The sun rises and sets every day... And you will too!