So this is the big weekend. I've spoken to a paralegal who works for the most expensive lawyer in town. (Couldn't afford the lawyer) He could not give me "advice" per se, but hepled with interesting info.
I'm in a no fault 50/50 split state so there's no "grounds" to speak of, which minimizes W's affair. That said, I cannot do anything that can be construed as "firing the first shot" like taking money out of our joint savings and putting it a private account, or packing all her stuff in boxes etc. etc. These kinds of things would only hurt my defense that I do not want to end the marriage. They could easily be twisted and used against me in D court.
Basically, I act like I'm married. That makes sense, but also looks a bit like being a "doormat". Still I gotta do what's best for moi and kids. I have noticed that W has beeing trying to "provoke me". I don't know whether or not she's being advised (smells like) but the things she says and does seem aimed at getting me to fire a shot. So I've got to keep my cool.
I am amazed at how quickly things have detoriated.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
