It's not over till it's over- part 2

[awest1217]

But what is so frustrating to me right now, is that when I am friendly he can be really short and irritable with me sometimes. He will get annoyed by me really easily. And this hurts my feelings so much, b/c I am trying so hard to get past what he has done and be friendly for the sake of our son and
I don't get why he can't just act the same way back, after all he has done.

I am sure H is acting this way because he feels guilty. He wants you to be mean and act rudely so he has a reason to stay away. Then he can put the blame on you and never self-evaluate.

I truly believe in "killing them with kindness". Believe me it is hard to do and hurts terribly sometimes, but for me I always think that I want S to have a good role model and this is the way to do it. I have slipped up and S remembers my slip up (it was during my darkest and lowest point, although not a good excuse) and I feel horrible about it, but I have stuck to "turning the other cheek" as much as possible. Don't talk to H a lot, but when you do, keep being positive and nice.