We used to fight every day and I don't believe we have fought in over 2 months. Almost every interaction is positive. Not because SHE has changed but because validating and remaining calm works wonders. I have learned that anger and yelling is useless and NEVER gets you what you want.
Wow! I would say that deserves a gold star!
You are learning. I can see it as I read your posts on other threads. You are going to make it, as long as your are willing to take a hard look within and are working to change that. Hard for me to do b/c it's easier for me to point my finger at my H. I think that is probably something I will have to watch from now on.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
