Irish,

I know exactly how you feel. In many ways, I've wondered at my resistance to change in our Relationship, as a determination to have all that we planned for in our retirement, come hell or high water. I feel cheated. And that makes me angry. It's going on a year now, and I still feel H bailed on both of us, but the anger has receded a bit.

I've come to accept that I have to leave it to God. Things will work out as they are supposed to. And I'll make the best of it.

Yes! There will be new challenges and new happiness and inevitable change! We will rise to the occasion, and hopefully be able to look back at this period in our lives, win,lose or draw, with few regrets. Here's to Happy Fifties!