Ok, all of that sounds good...I just totally suck at it somedays. Its hard to be his friend because I feel like I want to make him see that if he wants my help and support and advice, he needs to stay married to me! Also, I'm assuming this applies to being intimate together? Not that this is probably gonna happen in the near future, but I'd like to have a game plan if the situation comes up.

This weekend there is a xmas party for the daycare. He claims he's coming with, I'm not holding my breath but he seemed interested. I don't know how to act arround him in a social setting.

And I'm gonna take your advice and get my hair done. I've had the same hair for 10 years so I dunno if I can do anything drastic, but I'll try something!