If my goal is to have my wife pursue me, how have I accomplished that objective by telling her not to come around and not to call me? I know that my sitch is complicated by OM, but I have been working hard for the past two months building a friendship with my wife. For the past month, she has been the one making the effort--not me. The night she came for diner, for instance, she wasn't looking to leave. If I hadn't pushed her out the door, she probably would have stayed the night.
I recently ordered some books that arrived to our shared mailbox: 1) She Comes First 2) I Love Female Orgasm 3) Squirms, Screams and Squirts. She beat me to our mailbox the day the books came and I was a little embarrassed when she delivered them to my house. Her reaction surprised me even more: She seemed pleased by my interest; she sat on my lap, kissed me and said that we could practice together if I wanted.
Yesterday she tested NC by calling me (business related). I had an employee return her call; I was unavailable. So, please tell me, how will rejecting her advances accomplish my goals? How can she pursue if I wont let her? You people live this stuff and I trust your opinions, but to a simple guy like me this approach feels wrong.
