Sorry I haven't had a chance to post on others' threads for a bit. Busy week and took my car in tonight to have major work done tomorrow.
Sanderika, Mila, Missher, and CW,
Thank you VERY much for your feedback! I haven't flirted this overtly with XH since August and September of 2009, before the D, so he couldn't help but notice. He didn't seem put off by it though.
XH did not seem annoyed at my question about BMF (the whole convo took about 1 minute) but I did sense that XH's R with BMF may not be well. Call it a woman's intuition...........I also asked XH about another close, long-time male friend who lives in Florida (we had socialized with FL friend and his wife during our R). XH said FL friend has kidney failure, is on dialysis, and is on a transplant list........so lots of life-changing illness in XH's world right now. I asked XH to say "Hi" to FL friend for me.
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
I would schedule a TT game for as soon as you can with XH after the 25th and tell XH as soon as possible about it. Afterall he suggested another game... This is a great connection you two have, nurture it.
I think I will see if XH wants to do this. During the fall it felt like XH was cake-eating --- limiting our R to TT while he had his other needs met through GF#2 and others. XH is a good friend to others, but in my heart of hearts I don't think I want to be only friends with XH. I have been reading your discussion of this on Cas' thread with great interest.......What you wrote prompted me to think about how much my R with XH has changed in the last year, since the D. Our R has changed a LOT! We have become much more relaxed around one another and enjoy one another's company again.
Mila, thanks for reminding me of glamgirl's words. I find her perspective interesting, since her H has returned.
Missher............A GREAT BIG welcome to you! THANKS for stopping by! You are always WELCOME! Hope you're enjoying your new job and extracurricular activities.
Originally Posted By: missherlove
Translation......I would like to be nude in the hot tub with you.
REEEEEEEEEEEALLY???????? Wow! I didn't pick up on that,..... but now that you mention it, XH doesn't talk dirty like some people who make these kinds of references in everyday conversation. XH doesn't do that, so I guess it WAS significant.........I will definitely keep in mind your suggestion about hot tubbing after TT...........You're right. I have nothing to lose at this point.
LOVE your male POV! Missher, you should write a male translator.......seriously, you could fund an early retirement with this stuff.
CW, thanks for the encouragement to keep flirting. I have nothing to lose at this point.
