Upside sorry you are still dealing with all of this. You will decide when enough is enough. I know for me that day finally came. I felt freedom and was actually looking forward to my new life and didn't really think about my h much anymore.

It was at that time too, I told my h that my life was moving in another direction. Now, I did not ask him to come home at that time I just let him know what I was going to be doing and that our current R or whatever it was we were doing was done.

Well, about 45 days later he waltzed in the door and has been home since. Now I am not saying for you to take my advice, only saying that you will know what you want or are willing to tolerate. I just knew for me I wanted and expected more and really had to move on for myself.

I hope you can sort through all of this and find some peace with your situation.


Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"