What happens to the WAS after D?

[ClingingToHope]

Remembering MWD story, she specifically wrote about WAWs since so many divorces are initiated by women. Essentially, the research showed most WAWs are not prepared for how hard it is financially out of the M and most have this belief that they'll find some like-aged perfect guy. The reality -- again her stuff not my knowledge -- is that most guys when out of an M are looking to date younger so many WAWs are still alone five years later.

When I read it, it gave me comfort, but over time I realize I'm wishing STBXW to fail, which isn't a good thing.

In my case, at least financially, things I thought would happen are happening. STBXW is slipping further and further into a hole.

But I'm trying not to think about that and just focus on rebuilding myself so my girls have me as the stable one. Tough to be the stable one when I've been forced to move three times in 18 months.

We have similar timelines except I moved out earlier. I held on to the thought that it would all work out in the end until December 2009. That's when it really hit me that a D was going to happen. Then she filed and took a trip with her best friend and a bunch of guys in August and I fell into a deep funk.

I admire your stance in terms of waiting. Do what you feel is right and not what others think is right. The advice on here is good but inconsistent. I've gotten some great advice and really bad advice. No one is an expert. Eventually, you'll figure out when you are ready.