Learning while in holding - pattern

[beastiemanager]

AntoniaB
I have 2 kittens also and they are 7 months old! They sure
are a comfort. My kittens are female and a male. And the male is the biggest baby I have ever seen. We have to do cuddle time during the day, which is him laying underneath my chin and me rubbing his belly...he loves his momma. They are great friends. I have a dog too. She is great.

I think all of us feel that way. It isn't just us. My sisters have said that they are in the middle of the work day and all of a sudden, stop and think, "oh my god I can't believe this is happening to my sister."

My sister and her H were just talking about old times and us visiting in years past. And my b-i-l said that very same thing, that he can't believe this is happening that my H won't be there. He has been there for 30 years....

I also had a great marriage. I heard the very same thing as you, that peple had envied our relationship.

But you know, it's so hard, and I keep trying to tell myself, and maybe you can too, that you had something beautiful for a time, and now it's not that way, but it doesn't mean you're not a good person. It doesn't mean you will never be happy again. NO WAY

Thank you for this thought. It helps.

It is neat how similar our situations are...I also have changed in how I relate to other people. It was an area that I didn't realize needed improving on so much. But I discovered I did have issues to change or improve. I am more patient now and I am more extraverted when talking to others. I was stand-offish before and shy. Now I make conversation.

Thank you Antonia, for your kind words and thoughts.