IB holidays were probably the worst times for me. Afterall, it's suppose to be a time of family, friends, and celebrations.

Don't beat yourself up too bad, these are difficult times. I remember last Christmas was the first in 3 years that I finally felt good. I even worked out and then decked myself out with boots, sweater dress and fuzzy hat and met friends for coffee. I felt like I was finally alive rather than dreading the holidays from the past. I had finally accepted my life was different and I was moving ahead alone.

Life does move on whether we like it or not. Try to continue to embrace what you have and not what you don't have. If I could have plowed ahead rather than spent so much time being depressed and sad I would have been so much better off for myself and my kids.

Maybe you can make some new traditions this year and try NOT to focus on your h. Believe me, I know how hard this is for you.


Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"