MLC or just an EA?

[angel61]

After dropping the rope:

My H only said to me "OK, thats the way it will be" after I told him what my boundaries were, and what our R would be with those boundaries.

Now I am doing a post-mortem of what I said and thinking of how I should maintain/go from here:
1. I said no trial S - guess thats easy, if he wants S its for good.
2. No OW, not even emotional, or else its D - I hope I will be strong enough to do that if the time comes I will have to make that call. OW though does not seem interested anymore.
3. I said we should work on our M - MC, retrouvaille . This is one thing I am not so sure if I said the right thing , as it touches on the R. Maybe its a bit too early? Will it push him away? Was I too demanding?

As of now, our relationship is cordial, but there is no warmth. Once in a while he will engage me in friendly conversation, but only for short stretches. We sleep in the same bed but he clings to the end of the mattress (again).I dont say ILY, but once in a while I try light, non-sexual touch, but he seems to be less receptive than he was before the rope drop (or actually, the OW NC was when this all changed). I just keep following what Being me said. Remind myself that patience is what I need.

He is warm and loving to D11, thank goodness, and to the dog. I sometimes feel like an outsider in my own home.

I am not a patient person, though, and have started already looking out for my options, in case I can't stand it. I have started interviewing for jobs outside of my locale....I have looked at housing elsewhere - am I being negative by doing this?