You did not miss a thing. Tomorrow night we have our counseling session. This is about number 9 together and we each went to two seperate with same counseler. OM's wife called me yesterday to see how things where going on my end. OM will admit to nothing and I did not think that it would be a good idea to tell her what my wife has shared with me. It would only set her off and I would come off looking like the bad guy.
I told her that the only thing we can do is be the best people/person that we can be. If we both work together we may be able to break the cycle. She agreed and said that is what her counseler told her to do was take care of herself.
I have told her that she must be going through something terrible and I want to be there for her. I told her one night that if she misses the OM that she can tell me. She said do you really want me to say that? I said yes I want to be your friend. I can't say that over the last year that have not been any backslides albeit small.
Our action item from our last session was to put together things that we need to recover our marriage. I know she has not done anything as far as putting her list together. I guess what is most important to me is that she feels like she can trust me and we can be honest with each other. This is something that has been lacking.
She has been very very quiet this week and I have been giving her all the space she needs. Not talking about the issues etc. So very hard because in someways it feels like if we are not talking then we are not making progress. Any thoughts on tomorrow nights session. One thing you said in an earlier post was that it made you so mad when your husband would talk about your EA in your counseling sessions. Our counseler has told us that both of us need to share with each other our feelings towards one another. That one should not hold back or it comes out in bits and pieces.
