"I was going to ___________, but you ____________, so now I won't." My H used it too.
Your mileage may vary, but my H pursued me and wanted to reconcile about 2 weeks after I really dropped the rope and was focused on what was next. I was busy, I was genuinely happy, and I knew that whatever happened with H, I would be okay. Getting to that place was tough, but once I did, there was such peace in my life over my sitch.
Go out, GAL, learn to have fun and love yourself. Find your happiness, because whether or not your W and you reconcile, ONLY YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness...and W for hers.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
