However, based on your last comment are you also suggesting to just continue to live my life or do I state my boundaries one last time as to why I won't date?
I don't think you should get into a "discussion" of why you won't date her, period. Not right now, anyway. If she is really interested....she will pursue. If she is assessing the situation, then why can't you be mysterious? Why can't you leave the chase to her? Do you have to tell her what you plan to do, when you'll do it, and the person you'll be with? Why couldn't you become a very interesting man who she would have to "work" to get?
I say do not state your boundaries again! Why do LBH's think their WAW forgets what the boundaries are? Believe me, if you have been over them....she'll know. She will probably "test" those boundaries if she's given the opportunity, but she knows them.
Here is what I see in a lot of LBS's, in an attempt to "fix" the problems....they try to do it through conversations. They think, "If I can tell her just one more time--then maybe it will work". I believe in some cases, there is too much talk from the LBS.
Try to picture this: Both of you are back in your days before M. Let's say you are in the dating field and there is one girl you think is pretty fine. But, this other woman you would like to spend more time with and hopefully lead to more. There is one problem, however, she is already involved with somebody else. She has shown interest and even suggested that the two of you see each other. So......how would you handle that? Let me say that differently. How would the man you were before M handle that situation?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
