Bob, that is a lot like what Michele says about the more one partner does the more the other slacks off, so do nothing to get something.
OH yeah the guy in HS, yeah there was one that turned out to be so diferent from his image, hmmm they all were! ha ha! I was always afraid of dating anyone for too long, I knew my rep and that people had an image of me that was so diferent then how I saw myself and I was afraid of anyone really getting to know "me" and be let down. This relationship with my H is the first one I actually stuck with and worked on. I let him get to know me and he was just crazy about who I was on the inside and began to change the way he looked at many things.
as for your question about showing her posts. I think in the position you are in you certainly could. because you both are trying to work on putting your marriage back together. Maybe you belong in the new forum that Michele just started rather then infidelity and jealousy. I really think Chris could be of the utmost help to you at this point. go to her in an understanding and enlightend way showing complete empathy for her situation. stating you have learned so much about what happend with you both and you really are understanding her more now and I thought perhaps maybe this might help her as well and if she dosnt agree thats fine.
I totally understand he is the only one she can talk to feeling, I felt the exact same way!!
I agree it would have been much harder at he been just across the street! We wanted so bad to see each other and the miles did help keep us apart. and help now with where I am at even now. I do still from time to time wonder how things are with them and really hope they are working things out inspite of what my feelings were back then I still wanted them to work things out if they could because of the children.
my own website! I would never get a thing done! hee hee. I am thinking of starting a thread "Dear Sue" like Dear Abby lol! I get so many questions and I completely understand there isnt a whole lot of walkaways here to help on the insights from their perspectives.
