When I first started doing things around the house, cooking,cleaning,laundry,etc. It seemed like it might of bugged her, but she was saying thank you some. Over time I think she has become more comfortable with it, but all thank you's have stopped.
She does not trust that the changes in you are permanent. Don't do it just to impress her. Do it because it is something that needs to be done and something you enjoy doing.
Originally Posted By: habitacker
I do not do these things expecting anything, but I noticed the change in her. She has always been very polite, and always says thank you or god bless you after a sneeze. This has stopped almost completely towards me. It was still there until recently.
Here you are full of expectations. Do you wash dishes and then look up to her like a puppy waiting for a treat?
Originally Posted By: habitacker
I know this seems unimportant,but I believe if I am going to see any changes or baby steps with my wife, I am going to have to use a microscope.
She does not trust you right now. You need to earn back the respect. Stop looking for the approval for every little thing you do. Forget the microscope.
Mix up you 180's a bit. Get out of the house when you can. Read a book. Get a new hobby. Create some mystery.
Be happy, cheery, courteous and funny. Help her when appropriate, don't expect her to do anything for you. Don't ask.
Handle the household like she was not there.
Take care of yourself and your family.
Don't worry about being noticed. She is watching your every move. You will feel the stare in the back of your neck. Don't turn around to confirm.
She wants to see if you are man enough to handle it.
