Not only will OW be sitting at H's place (or maybe she'll be outside of FIL's place, peeking through the windows????), BUT she will no doubt sense his change of attitude after the visit.
Fill your house with old, familiar Christmasy smells, sights, and sounds for H's visit. Even better if you can give H some of those to take back to his place. Every time he looks at them it will be a reminder of you and D. When H and I were splitting our assets, Jody told me to show a generous spirit. I gave H a couple pieces of framed art photographs, even though I loved them, because I knew that every time he looked at them he would think of some of the good times that we shared. Those generous, sentimental gifts are like little, secret time-delayed explosive devices (sorry Punkin. I'm sure there is another term for these......). They sit inside our WAS' home and when they least expect it, they pierce the WAS' heart.
