After reading a number of your post, I am struck with a thought. I hope you dont take this the wrong way. But my therapist always tells me that many times in a marriage the person who feels like they are doing a lot of the work (in any regard) often takes on this idea of superiority. They begin to look down on the other spouse. You have to acknowledge and caution against it. This is part of the poisonous atmosphere and you are helping it. You aren't superior because you are working "harder." First, you don't know that. Second, we all have flaws that make us more or less equal to one another. Also we each contributed to where we are. Talking about how you have "options" or that your therspist flirts with you also contributes to this. Personally, I dont care about options or other women flirting with me. I care about my M and workkng in me. I hope you dont take this the wrong way. Just something for all of us to think about and I think the DB process feeds this notion.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
