I feel that I did gain back a lot of self respect. Suspecting that there was another man standing between my wife and I for over a year was a painful process. Having confirmed and then not done anything about it would have been intolerable.
Anything is better than continuing on in a state of limbo. If she doesn't make a decision by early in the New Year, then I am going to have to revisit the issue. She knows that the current situation can't continue, but she is having a hard time dealing with the consequences if she chooses to leave. My gut tells me that after meeting with her friends she is going to want the divorce option as they are going to convince her that she deserves to be happy and that will only happen if she chooses the OM. They will also tell her that the kids will adjust to the new relationship.
Divorce is still better than what I face now on a day to day basis. At least with the Divorce I will have an opportunity to find a new love. In the interim, I continue to be upbeat and supportive to my wife. I have not given her any new rationale over the last year to want a divorce and am a much better person then the one she had to deal with previously.
