Thank you VERY much ladies for your encouragement today! I had a VERY busy day in clinic. I was pretty pooped, had a headache, and was still feeling disappointed about my sister ditching me for our planned New Years trip to LA (BTW, I decided this may have been divine intrvention --- sister and her daughter are very negative recently. Sister is taking her XH to court, 15 years after D because he hasn’t paid what he was supposed to for D’s college education --- D is supposed to testify against her father. She states she wants nothing to do with her father. I probably would have been surrounded by negativity if I had gone to LA, so I’m seeing the glass as half full right now.)
Anyway, I didn’t know how I could feel like flirting and being fun with XH……but when I read your encouraging posts Sanderika, Rabbit (you little MINX!!!!), and Mila, it inspired me! So thank you ladies VERY much! I flirted like crazy tonight!
XH and I played TT for 2 hours tonight. We laughed and had a great time! I am playing better and I think I am challenging XH enough that he enjoys playing with me.
Early in the game I told XH that his BMF had contacted me twice (text on Thanksgiving Day and asked to "friend" me on FB). I asked if XH had any idea why BMF had contacted me because BMF never contacted me while XH and I were in a R. XH said he didn’t know why BMF had done that and that BMF hadn’t told him about it. He said maybe BMF wants to date me. I let it drop at that point. Let XH keep that thought in his brain. Didn’t remind XH how repulsed I am by BMF because of his depraved behavior. Does anyone think I should reply to BMF after this? I don’t see any advantage to it.
About 10 minutes into our game, we talked about the 9 year old girls that I play TT with in the league. I said to XH “You know, there are only two 9 year olds in the league. All the others are adults. Maybe I should unbutton my top (shirt) buttons to gain an advantage…..” At that point I unbuttoned the top 3 buttons on my cobalt blue knit shirt to demonstrate and left them unbuttoned the rest of the evening. This was significant because on our very first date I was wearing a cobalt blue shirt and at one point I unbuttoned the top button. H/XH later told me that he saw that as a very good sign when I did that (had told BMF about it), even though he showed no signs of interest at the time. (XH has a real poker face about those things.) …….So for the rest of the evening, I had the buttons undone….and when I was serving or receiving serve, I was bent over (like a tennis player) so XH could get a glimpse of cleavage…and then I held my paddle just in front of the area of interest (i.e. cleavage) so XH had to look there. ☺ Initially I could see XH eyeing my cleavage a few times, so that made me smile (XH is a che$t man and I can tell from FB photos that GF#2 isn’t as well-endowed as I am so I worked this angle) but then he acted as if he wasn’t paying attention……however, I know from our convos when we first started dating that H/XH didn’t look like he was checking me out on our early dates, but he really was.
In the course of the evening I did some stretching (touching my elbows behind my back), bent over many times to pick up balls (as you suggested Rabbit ☺ ), rotated my hips back and forth in a little dance before I served, applied lip gloss to bring attention to my lips, patted XH on the butt with my paddle several times when he won games,……….and bent over on all fours with my back arched looking for lost balls under a little table in the room. At one point when I was on all fours, XH said to me “You look like a dog”. ;-)……….interesting comment……….. At the end of the evening he talked about how he now wears a cap when he sits in his backyard hot tub in the nude……so maybe my flirting WAS having an effect on him?
Throughout the evening XH kept acting like he was being chaste (the MLC script. UGH!!!!!!!!) but he never acted annoyed that I was flirting with him……..but then I remembered that that’s the way he acted the evening we had our first advanced TT lesson. He was always hard to read that way. As we were getting into our cars XH said “wanna play again next week?” I said “the community center is closed then. We could play after Dec 26th”. XH didn’t say anything after that. XH gave me a perfunctory hug. I said “Merry Christmas” and we got in our cars and drove away. No firm TT date for the future..........so I'm thinking about trying to find someone else to play TT with, for my mental health (the fun and just being with someone who acts like they aren't holding you at arms length --- this is just annoying!) and to give XH something to think about.
I’m planning to visit X-MIL this weekend and on Christmas Day. Went to visit last night but she was asleep, so left some holiday goodies and two poinsettias. I think I’m going to print some nice photos of X-MIL and XH to leave at X-MILs the next time I visit. She will like them and when XH visits, they will remind him of some happy times when we were together.
