As far as I know, he is not seeing ow anymore. He says he is not, and he doesn't act like he is. I took it upon myself to begin to make amends with his family, and they noticed the changes in me right away this was in 07. My H was a little resentful at first, saying I was playing for the jury. But as time went on, and I began to be more of a help to them, and then my FIL got sick, I started doing more. I always really loved my IL's, but had kinda stopped seeing them as much. I took my FIL to most of his treatments, and doctor visits. He died in 09, like your FIL did, and now we have to deal with MIL. She is a handful, but a H's mother is a good ally to have. She and I have become closer, and I now take her wherever she needs to go. She, like your MIL is very co dependent, and I sometimes get frustrated, but why show that kind of frustration to H, when it is his M? She isn't going to change and I care enough to deal with it. And we live only about five minutes or so away from her. Were you ever close to his M? Have you and she become enemies over this? There has to be way to reconcile with her. She know you are his rightful W.
