This has to be done in steps. She has decisions to make and if she does the right thing.....then the feelings will come later.
Sandi I agree it has to be done in steps. That's why piecing is difficult and too many people rush into it.
Feelings can grow with each encounter. My W hasn't said anything about the M while we are "dating".
I believe the trust issue is being felt out by both parties. Building trust is the initial ingredient to repairing the R.
I'm currently in that stage. It has taken three months. My R with my W is steadily improving.
Looking back I didn't want her to come back just b/c of the kids. She didn't stay for that reason. The kids will grow and move away, then what?
I want to know she wants to spend time with me b/c of who I am.
Sorry to ramble. Yes I agree it only takes effort to start the healing process even though it may take time for the feelings to return.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
