Thinking back in my sitch I wanted my W to come back for the right reasons. Coming back for the kids sake or financial security was NOT on my list. I wanted my W to come back b/c she stills loves me and wants a great R(M) with me.
Think about what you want in a R. That's the reason you want to be with your W.
Having the W to stay in the M b/c she loves her H and wants to be with him is the ideal way, but it's not the logical way. Here me out, okay?
When I first came here I was in deep EA with OM. I knew what was "right" for me to do.....but it was not what I "wanted". If I had to wait until I felt those in-love feelings for my H.....it would not have happened. So yes, I made my decision based on what was right....not what I felt.
This has to be done in steps. She has decisionsto make and if she does the right thing.....then the feelings will come later.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
